Turning 30 has always felt like a birthday that would never come. It felt like a cut-off point for all the things one ‘should’ achieve by that age.
Last week I came across this article from Dolly Alderton: 30 things I’ve learnt about life at 30 and I cannot tell you how much it resonated with me. It also made me think about the life lessons I have learned about life.
Here are my thoughts on turning 30, in no particular order…
Wine gives me a headache. Yep, it’s true, there is no easy way to say this, but the wine really doesn’t agree with me! I’ve tried hard to like wine. It’s one of those ‘adult’ things to do right?
I can have a really good time without getting drunk. I’ve always felt peer pressure when going out. Why do I always feel ashamed to say no to ‘that one drink’ on Wednesday night?
My wardrobe has changed completely. I’ve never been a total fashionista, however now I have a different outlook on clothing.
Walk away from any situation that isn’t good for you.
Trust your gut. It knows what it’s doing. Especially, at the age of 30 – it has been tried and tested many many times. Trust your feelings.
Never make a social plan for Monday night.
Surround yourself with people that make you feel alive.
Quality over quantity. Apply this to everything in your life – friends, relationships, groceries, travels. Less is more!
Mr. Right doesn’t exist. Ok, what I mean by this is that if a man doesn’t treat you well, doesn’t respect you – then he’s not the Mr. Right for you. Once you get over the fact that ‘he’ isn’t Mr. Right – you’ll be surprised how many other Mr. Right’s are there who can fit the bill.
Turn off push notifications on your phone. It’s been a few months since I’ve turned all my notifications off – and I’m still amazed how it has changed my life. Having fewer distractions make me feel more present and slow down.
Hiking is awesome. I’m not sure when exactly I’ve fallen in love with hiking, but I remember in my early twenties you couldn’t have paid me to go on a hike. I’m glad I’ve somehow come to discover that being outdoors and in the wilderness is one of my absolute favourite things and helps me to recharge my body and soul.
If it won’t matter in 6 months, don’t worry about it. This is something I keep telling myself when I’m having a difficult situation. Why 6 months? I don’t know. But you will get through the worse day of your life.
Cut off toxic and meaningless friendships. I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations.
Go to as many festivals as you can.
Take lots of photographs so you don’t forget. I’m thinking years from now it’ll be fun to look back on this list or really anything from this blog.
Do not mix your drinks. Safe to start and end with G&T. Try to stick to it.
Wear comfortable shoes.
Have a side hustle – whatever it is. If you love dogs but can’t have them whatever reason, sign up to dog buddy and get paid to walk somebody else’s dog. Love taking photos? Grab a camera and explore. Having a side hustle that’s not related to your day job, is a great way to earn some side income and get a great fulfillment.
Invest in experiences, not things. I’ll be forever grateful to my parents who were always focused on giving me memories and experiences rather than just a bunch of crap I didn’t need. People and the memories you create will fill you up much longer than any material item. Make your investments wisely.
Gratitude is everything. Though sometimes what you have isn’t exactly what you wanted, there’s still something to be thankful for. Search for the silver lining, even if you have to pull out a microscope to spot it.
Get outside, wonder more and explore.
Ditch 5 am flights. Pay £50 more and get a flight at a human hour. You’ll probably end up spending that money at Pret anyway.
There’s no timeline for your life. There’s no age limit for getting married, buying a house, having kids. There’s also no requirement to have those things. Live in the moment. Enjoy your life as it is, and only seek to change it when you’re ready.
Friendships change and that’s ok. I may have fewer friends and even less time to see them. But the friends I do have I treasure. This has probably been the biggest transition to get used to. Since living in London, I’ve changed my friend’s circles almost every year. I’ve met so many amazing people through work, friends, parties or randomly. Life changes very quickly in the London bubble, and this is one of the things you should be able to accept when investing your time and energy. People come and go, however, the good ones will hopefully stay!
Sausage and mash is a perfectly acceptable meal. And a delicious one, at that. There is never a time when I can’t eat them, no matter how bad I feel. Best food ever!
Buy yourself flowers. They’re just as beautiful, coming from you.
There is good and bad in everyone. No matter who it is, we are all human. We all do some amazing things, and we all do some crappy stuff. Try not to judge another human being by a single action. We all have our bad days.
Have a happy place, and go there often. I have a few places in London I call my ‘happy place’ – my gym, Battersea park, and Gianlucas cafe in Fulham are one of them.
Sourdough bread is life. Add cottage cheese, salmon or avocado – just heavenly!
Your dreams can and should change.